I think we should dispense with handing out things and tell everyone weve made a donation to a local womens shelter or program for mothers in need. The third tells of a mother who helped her daughter with a disability at a temple dedication. And dont even get me started on the Are We Not All Mothers tripe. Thank you for being the kind of people you are and doing the things you do. The woman described her family as she was growing up. Just sharing those times with women in the scriptures and what we can learn from them - and NOT have a focus on mothers. The only Mothers Day event for another church Im aware of is when a friend told me that in her church the main talk is always about Christ no matter what holiday it is, but when its just the women the speaker will focus on motherhood and Christs teaching about mothers. Kristine, thank you again. THE major Mothers Day talk in Sacrament Meeting in our ward this week, I have forwarded all of this discussion on to him! The first consideration is that you, the speaker, need to begin with your audience in mind. Geesh! You can guess how well that went over. (Sorry to barge in madhousewife). My own father would probably appreciate a plant, but fortunately he enjoys cookies too. Have a variety of ages speak on ideas or what they've done to help their mothers and ways they've stayed close to their mothers. We already talk about the topic, motherhood, every Sunday. Do you also not need an idea such as the Savior, your Father in Heaven or your Heavenly Mother? Although I like the idea of them as well! And I did use some of the suggestions here. I find women in general to be compassionate and sensitive to other people and a joy to be around. Honoring Fallen Parents: The Fifth Commandment and Romans 3:23 The Fifth Commandment enjoins: "Honor thy father and thy mother." . http://mormonartist.net/2012/02/day-three-jeanna-stay/. So I would personally prefer if they didnt do those honor-mothers meetings. Mormon women are harder on themselves than any other group of ladies I have associated with. In return, the Lord renews the promised remission of sin and enables Church members to always have his Spirit to be with them (Doctrine and Covenants 20:77). Evry cry of pity heeding, And Im batting clean up. Im not going tomorrow. So He can be ideal AND real. End of rant. Classic! The good talks that I have heard tend toaddressthe details ofan individual womans life, in all its messiness and particularity. I would expect him to give a talk like that because he is so utterly black and white in his thinking and he never heard a strict utterance over the pulpit that he did not love. Talking to other grownups while nice doesnt belong in 3rd hour. Not necessarily mothersjust women. Latter-day Saint pianist Monica Scott has arranged a touching Mother's Day medley in honor of Stephanie Pope, a mother of five who recently passed away . The broken bread is a reminder of His body and His physical sufferingespecially His suffering on the cross. I am not sure what other words I can use to convey my meaning when I rely so heavily on tone. Sadly, though, it probably caused a lot of pain to the listeners. I havent had a bad Mothers Day since I divorced my ex and the day stopped being about making my kids miserable so that he could appear to be a good husband. I found out the hard way after a long list of them declined to give the talk. Its hard for those without children, who are likely never to have children, to listen to motherhood talks that don't address their situation. As the son of a mother who was destroyed every Mothers Day, and seeing many similar experiences here, I plan to stick to the Christ-centric meeting next year. Well, counselor x/counselor y is in charge of May, I dont know what hes doing for sure . The talks are mostly bearable (though no picnic), but the worst is when the youth would spread out in search of women who were not holding whatever flower or chocolate. But from my description, it sounds like the typical platitudinous MD talk. we have never ceased head-shaking about his, well, completely horrific timingand choiceoif topicand general ignorance and intolerance (and sheer bovine stupidity). I did this for five years and the sisters seemed to enjoy sitting, chatting, and not having a child demanding a bit of their pie. Just pass out the chocolates and let all the women go to a park where buckets of KFC, potato salad and slaw are in abundance and/or veggie pizza and cheesecake. LDS Mom Launches Exciting New Party Game. Christian churchs teach that you are inherently bad, that it is not entirely your fault and that Christ has already saved you and after He gets around to telling you (if He hasnt already) that you forgiven and are His, you will do nonspecific good things he directs because you will naturally want to do them. Not until the 1600s did people start associating the holiday with their own actual mothers (Mothering Day in the UK). All my daily tasks fulfilling, Ere the sun goes down: What does that say about us as a people? Evry idle whisper stilling The only thing I might try if I were in charge would be to put out pink, white, red carnations and safety pins and invite everyone in the ward to wear a carnation to honor their mother pink/red if shes living, white if shes passed away. ), Miriam his sister who obeyed her mother and stayed with him and suggested her mother be his nursemaid, and the daughter of Pharoah, who raised him. Just plant a tree and name it after our mothers! Alece, its usually when the admins sense that the conversation is no longer productive, or when we dont have time or patience to keep monitoring the thread. I just spent two hours reading all the comments, viewing the video mentioned in #90, and taking notes. Talk topics could be: - examples in the scriptures (Eve, Ruth, Naomi, Esther, Sarah, Mary, Sariah, etc), - early Saints (Lucy Mack, Emma, Eliza R Snow, Aurelia Rogers, etc), - influence of (teachers, nurses, aunts, grandmas, etc). Check out our selection of LDS church programs for baptisms, church activities, and sacrament meetings. Im sure that attendance in RS would be higher on that day though. Yea like all of you My Mother sucked too. My oldest, the musical and noisy one, composed parodies of many favorite primary songs about a decade ago when she was under the tyranny of those zealous but misguided young mothers. . I think mixing it up, at least every other year, from Mother I Love You, is nice as a mom. For example, look at how Mothers Day and Mothering Day each have a religious as well as a secular component to them, and have even merged: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother's_Day, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mothering_Sunday. I also have plenty of friends who are single sisters and they mourn growing older and menopause because they wont be able to have the children they want to hold and love. I have been called by God to be there and that is where I should be. Aleah is a graduate of Southern Virginia University, where she studied English, Creative Writing, and Dance. At the end of the survey there was a comments box where individuals could leave specific feedback to bishoprics that organize Mothers Day. There are wrongs that need redressing Every year someone has to pick up the flowers for my ward. She worked during the day and took classes at night, and created a home for her children where they knew love. Just a question here, since I am new to this blog. At first I was wishing that I wasnt, but after thinking and praying about it for a few weeks and speaking with friends and family, Im rather excited about it. He gets points for effort and most humorous and memorable! Mother's Day became the hardest day of the year for me. I dont envy you people who have been called togive talksnext week. I do look forward to handing the kids over to my husband for the day, but Ill take a pass on sacrament meeting. Disciples of Christ know what they want and there is not need to celebrate Christmas in front of others that are not faithful. But one thing is for sure, Ill be drawing on much of this. God still loves her, and her life still had value and meaningTHE END!! I cant quite relate that to Motherhood but maybe he will. By Too often folks with food allergies, diabetes, and similar challenges are left feeling like second class saints in our food-laden church culture. Why in the church is there such a strong, almost secular aversion to motherhood? Deep gratitde is owed to our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ for the Atonement which allows us each to recover from any missteps, no matter how far off the path one may stray. I get really tired of hearing the stripling warrior passages on Mother's Day. She was a wonderful example for motherhood, womanhood, and peoplehood. Great, and I was just asked to talk on Sunday, I guess I will be very careful. We can only celebrate the nonentity because we are afraid of hurting those who are not being celebrated "today". It is the essence of who we are as women. Are you looking for the best LDS talks on motherhood? I am 70 years old and have never been a mother, but I had one. Uchtdorf. So Im on for Mothers Day and have been assigned Julie Becks talk on the history of Relief Society as topic. It very gently re-addressed several of the points that were flying in the newspapers and throughout the church in the Mothers Who Know backlash. I have some ideas of speaker topics but I thought I would start a thread for suggestions of topics, scriptures, conference talks, etc that would help make a great Sacrament Meeting that honors Motherhood while also keeping a focus on Christ. My grandmother is my ideal of both a woman and a mother, but she was married to an alcoholic so I understand if she is not the ideal for others. But alas, Mother's Day 11 years ago will forever be known as the day I landed face down on the floor of the chapel, on top of my 3-year-old, in the middle of sacrament meeting, with my skirt flung over my head. Since I believe he (the Father) and my Heavenly Mother are probably equals, Id say we know a lot about her as well! We speak about it nearly every Sunday. I have some ideas of speaker topics but I thought I would start a thread for suggestions of topics, scriptures, conference talks, etc that would help make a great Sacrament Meeting that . I explained that I was not calling any men to speak, due to their tendency to give perfect mother talks, and felt they could do a better job giving an honest uplifting talk that could be of benefit to the mothers in the congregation. Those who are not disciples of Christ or do not have faith will find it painful to see the faith of others; thus no one should celebrate Christmas openly. I could brave baby showers and birth announcements just fine, but Mother's Day cut me to the core. Ugh.chocolate and cheescake.and NO TALKS!!! #46 That is an awesome idea for your talk. Members have now learned to accept it. #109 Rayloved the roller coaster quote on motherhood. If you want to hear about angel mothers and perfect people, remain in the chapel. In this case it will likely be mothers, and the Primary kids will sing, too. It isn't uncommon for LDS women to be dealing with some combination of the following factors: a difficult marriage, no marriage, no children, difficult children, health problems, loss of faith. I accidently hit the quote button and so nothing is there..you guys can fill in the blank.. My wife and I will be on an Alaska Cruise. "I am a sociopathic perverted mess emotionally and mentally thanks to the influence of my insane codependent mother.'". It is as if we cannot celebrate anything because if we focus on single day to celebrate one person then we have decimated everyone else. 30 Inspiring LDS Quotes About Mothers & Motherhood, Church Leaders Honor Mothers Over the Holiday Weekend, Church Releases Tribute to Mothers, You Are Enough, FREE Happy Mothers Day Coloring Page Printable, The Family is a Divine Blessing | 6 March 2023, Come Follow Me Recap Thy Faith Hath Saved Thee | 5 March 2023, Miracles Come Through Fasting | 4 March 2023, Young Latter-day Saint Missionary Passes Away in Georgia, 5 Things You Didnt Know About the Day the LDS Church Was Organized. She told us that as a girl, she would sit in her room crying, with big welts on the back of her hands, but now that she was grown up, she understood why her mother did it, and she was grateful, by golly. I wonder if this phenomenon is uniquely Mormon. Special celebrations can and should be held at home within the family. Thats the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me! I spoke one Mothers Day about Eve and Mary, and thought it was a good talk and well-received. I dont recall what the men are given on Fathers Day, but at one time in my ward they gave them nice ball point pens. Nourishing both body and souls.Just my humble opinion. When mothers know who they are and who God is and have made covenants with Him, they will have great power and influence for good on their children.. I love this. Now, I detest it. Aiming for Heaven is again looking to the sinless for examples, not to an episode of Leave it to Beaver. I did live in one ward where the mothers always got plants but the fathers always got cookies. Im sort of hoping that the person before me goes too long and I have to wrap up with my testimony. How about we don't celebrate either at church, but celebrate it in our homes with our mothers and fathers? I know my own mother dislikes being called a good mother because she feels so awful about how she raised us from her perspective. She has your best interests at heart. If they give out a plant that I can put in the ground, Ill be sad to miss that, though. . I also really like Kristenes suggestion and everything like unto it as EOR suggested. My Mother will one day reach the godstage with my Father and will have there own planet. Perhaps it shouldnt be mothers day, but be Womans day and celebrate the contributions of women of faith in their families and communities. What does this mean about women? It would just be nice to complete our idealism with a good dose of reality. I have heard good talks and bad talks, and really dislike the sacralizing of the universal and perfectly average activity of mothering. Oh, and my husband is speaking in our ward this Mothers Day. It was the service ofthe sisters that made the talk memorable. In the same way, when we make a dramatic production of Mothers Day, I fear that we are sometimestrying to compensate for the way we devalue the real and important work they do on the other 364 days of the year. Kind of it takes a village/ward to raise a child philosophy. Sometimes its good, sometimes its bad. It seems like every time theres a church scandaland especially one that concerns moneypeople start arguing that the scandal-ridden church (or even churches in general) should lose their tax exemptions. Doesn't seem strange in a religion that supposedly is so family focused? Ere the sun goes down. To be fair, diabetics can eat chocolate. I cant remember the last time I heard a bad sacrament meeting talk, period. I remember my dad saying it was one of the most powerful and real talks hed ever heard in a Mormon church meeting. The fathers dont seem to feel as guilty about things as the mothers do,,,. Then I served in a Branch with 90% women who had absent husbands and who also grew up with absent fathers. Finally, Elder Holland offers his thanks to mothers around the world. Since my husband gets to give My kids are way too distracting. She was not a perfect mother, but I loved her. Personally, I go to church to learn about Jesus and Christ like attributes. Well, you dear women, I say thanks to you. You might drift over to what has been considered the rebuttal of Mothers Who Know given at the next conference session by Elder Ballard. When He instituted the sacrament, Jesus Christ said, This is my body which is given for you: this do in remembrance of me. Mothers day will likely be about Gods unconditional love for us and how it pains Him to see us struggle And how even mothers cannot quite reach that level of love, but we understand the concept because most of us love our children in much the same way (but n, Focus your talk on how much we ALL need Jesus (even mothers) because we are all sinners (read the Bible It tells us so). Which meeting do you think would be more meaningful to the participants? I would love to avoid Mothers Day meetings, just because they are usually tedious, but I love to go for the sake of seeing my kids sing. She used several stories from the NT about Christ & his mother Mary to illustrate principles that we can all use to improve our relationships with others. The reminder was given to visit those sisters unable to attend on Mothers Day. I had assumed it was a greeting card holiday of commercial origins, but it is actually (like Christmas) based on Roman pagan traditions. LDS Mother's Day Gift Ideas: Great Gifts for LDS Women Mother's Day Cupcake Flower Card Mother's Day Gift Ideas: 10 Ways to Show Your Love on Mother's Day Mother's Day Chapstick Idea Mother's Day Questionnaire & Gift Idea Mother's Day Gift Idea: Candy Necklaces Mother's Day Treat Tags Mother's Day gift idea: Candy Flower Bouquets Categories Then she spoke with conviction about the grace of Godthe grace that helped her forgive herself for the serious problems she caused her children that could have been prevented if shed prepared herself, and the grace that helped her achieve later in life the spiritual depth she had lacked when her children were young. They would eat honey cakes and give flowers. Seriously, no one is going to be pleased. I love her and think she did a great job with the limited resources she had. Required fields are marked *. Church meetings Sacrament Meeting Overview To find a ward near you, try the Meetinghouse Locator, which will also provide sacrament meeting times, driving directions, and contact information. I don't understand it, but it is your logic. In one of my wards, the women of the congregation were given wooden spoons as their gifts at the end of the meeting. Why is that or is that just in my ward? Just asking. Although with good intentions, speakers usually put mothers and motherhood on a pedestal ("Mothers are loving and caring and naturally nurturing", "A mother's love is the closest thing to Christlike love on earth", "No mother is perfect, except my mom, who is literally an . Gospel Q&A: I Feel Guilty That I Cant Fast Because of Medical Reasons. As I journey on my way, Thanks for thinking of me, my youngest bishop son! Especially since whoever asked him to speak didnt learn their lesson and he said the exact same talk a year later. What does that say about us as a people? Or any talk. It hurts. Well, count me among the lucky ones who are speaking this coming Sunday. Oh, great. Not an official website of the The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. I have an aversion to bringing my family's celebration intochurch and causing other women pain. Although the later version of Mothers Day in the US was to honor mothers, it retained its association with peace as carnations were given out as a symbol of peace (white if ones mother was dead, pink if alive). When I was bishop, my bishopric would always serve pie during the third hour and Id invite my mom to attend. So be kind to her. Below, youll find an excerpt from each talk and a link to the full text. I just dont like when they push the plant on me after Ive politely declined it. Ive lived in numerous family wards, and Ive never gotten as much as a crumb for Fathers Day, at least not from church. I am confident that a poll ofactive Mormons would show that Mothers Day sacrament meeting is, hands down, the one meeting of the year most fraught with difficulty for the people who attend. Yesterday I enjoyed another Mother's Day sacrament meeting, typical with its children's songs, a talk from a young man about how wonderful mothers are, a talk from a sister about how wonderful women are, and a tearful talk from a brother about all the incredible mothers in his life. I recommend it highly: This! (http://dandelionmama.wordpress.com/2012/05/08/this-this-is-what-i-believe/). I wish you were speaking in my ward! If youre already perfect, who needs it? Id really love to see the fathers acknowledged on Fathers Day. #28 Love the song choice of I Have Work Enough To Do as a tribute. April 24, 2015 in General Discussions. So I will be going to church on Sunday, even though I never go to church, so I can remember my mother, who was never a Mormon.